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| Houston, Texas Dating
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| Response Rate: 80%
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| Toned, I keep fit
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| Capricorn
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| African American
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| 26 years of age
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| 5'11 - 6'
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| Single
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| Under 25k
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Waking up to the face of someone I love, smelling the air after it rains, running my hands over skin that is rarely touched by human hands, or air and sunlight, women with nice feet and hands, a warm smile when the blues have hit me, watching the palms blow in the wind, (is relaxing to me), watching the expression on the face of someone I just made a great meal for take the first bitethere are so many things I could go on foreverSo
I am looking for more than just an intimate encounter, I am looking for someone to take control of my soul, to taste the flavor of my excitement, someone that, just by touch or words makes my body quiver, someone who is open minded,creative, adventurous and spontaneous.Someone who is gentle yet aggressive, sexy and ravenous yet romantic, playful and confident,am a very open minded person and very accepting.am affectionate and passionate.I hope I've inspired your interesti shall be looking forward to your reply with you telling me all about yourself,about your hobbies
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The Greeks had a legend about a man named Sisyphus who was banished by Zues to a desert island,an island which had nothing on it to keep him occupied. And after a while Sisyphus started losing his mind. Then one day he took it into his head to push a big rock up the mountain on the island,and all day long he labored with the big rock,pushing it and pushing it in the hot sun,until at night,with the top of the hill almost in sight,he finally gave up and let the rock roll down the hill again. He did this again the next day,and the next, and for many months to come,and though he never reached the top of the mountain with his rock,when they finally found him he was sane,just as sane as he'd ever been. I've alwaysliked this story because it made me coscious of something which I'd only half guessed before-the fact that it's our commitment to life which saves us,and what we commit to is not what's important at all. I know it's not easy to rid yourself of notion that you need something important to commit to, or to learn to find pleasure in what is,rather than displeasure in what you wish there'd be,but the trick of life is to stop worrying about finding the perfect something to commit to and commit to something,anything at all. And if you can't commit to something big,then commit to something small.
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Perhaps its because we are all so desperate for love that we believe if ever it comes to us we will be happy for evermore,and when it comes along we pay with the self we had for the love we want.Because there are an awful lot of relationships around in which the dependence is so great that the vulnerabilitiy is too high,and an awful lot of people bursting out of them or looking for an escape.Its odd to think someone might take a lover not because they love their mate too little but because they love them too much instead,or that one would have as much trouble holding firm to self in a love one has,as one does when one isnt being loved back.But the problem is the same.We can only take so much vulnerability at a time,and all of us skate back and forth across that frightening line.I guess thats why so many anesthetize their feelings with pain killers and booze,hoping to dull their insistent throb,and still others take theirs neat and canned in violence,noise,and speed.And its why a lot diversify,so no one can hurt too much.And why so many of us have heard ourselves say,more than once,"If you are you,and we are us,then who is it thats I?To meet another and hold your ground is one of the most difficult tasks in the world,and most of us alternate between various forms of non meeting instead.We either take on the other persons thoughts and ideas,losing our own on the way,or hold the other person at arms length in order to protect our world,and in so doing close ourselves off in some place where we remain alone.Its not easy to live comfortably with someone else once youunderstand how much power you have given them just by making them the one you love.So what what was love often turns to fear,and we begin to cha cha back and forth,to do what Nena O'Neill terms"the eternal dance of domination we call love."I thought the joys of sharing your life were so profound that they justified every sacrifice you might have to make.But now i look at how ive changed and feel i have to put a stop to that at whatever cost.Being in a dependentrelationship is like being in a canoe,if one person needs to stretch his/her legs.the other is beset by vertigo.And those who set up their lives in such a way find that they either spare their partners that malaise at the expense of what they need themselves,or pay with guilt for everything they do.So many think you have to run away from love to find yourself,although that is not true.
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There is a difference between an independence which comes from strength and one which is a retreat from life,the retrenchment of a spirit not trusting in itselfAnd while I know we are all afraid of being hurt and take steps back for every forward one we take,the truth is the moment when we are most ourselves is when we reach out and answer the call from someone elseIt is very difficult to accept the fact that there are no guarantees in life,no guarantees that life will progress as it should or that the people you care about will love you back,or even that they will treat you rightBut trust in life does not mean trusting that life will always be good or that it will be free of grief and painIt means trusting that somewhere inside yourself you can find the strength to go forth and meet what comes and,even if you meet betrayal and disappointment along the way,go forth again the very next day. maybe we all are just stuck in the process of self loveabout doing your own thing and being yourself,and those who talk of understanding,of intimacy,or love,talk largely to themselvesit is easy when you've been hurt by love to give up as a bad job and make independence your new god,taking the love you had to give and turning it in upon yourself.and most of us have had to protect ourselves so much at times that we've given up the high road and taken the lowbut independence carried to the furthest extreme is just loneliness,nothing more than another defense,and there is no growth in it,only a safe harbor for a whilethe answer does not lie in learning how to protect ourselves from life, it lies in learning how to become strong enough to let a bit more of it in.and that is the direction in which I am myself trying to head.I know that many people feel they have to draw away,and others so damaged from the wars can never fight again.I know the joys of owning yourselfI have sung that song myselfbut dimly and from a hidden place,I hear a most insistent voice saying to anyone who wants to hear,there is no growth without love.
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