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People say that I am:
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A faithful friend; very loyal. Whatever you may need, if she has it and you need it, she will give it to you without repayment. She is always there for you day or night. She always has a Word for you when life gets crazy. She tries to live her life by the Bible though she fails sometimes. But she really believes and tries to live what she preaches. She definitely can express whatever she's feeling or going through. She can get down sometimes but she doesn't stay down long. I appreciate her. She's my best friend.
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Things that have bothered me:
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I would say peoples lack of commitment to Christ or worldliness have bothered me most. This question is kinda hard because the only Christian that I've ever "dated" was my exhusband and we never really dated. We were friends, penpals, right before we married. So all I have to compare to is him and our demise. His worldliness bothered me a lot. He always said we should be sold out to Jesus but I don't feel he was. In the end, he committed adultery with 7 different women over almost 16 years of marriage. He deserted our marriage and our friendship. I think the root was his relationship with God was bad due to worldliness and lack of commitment to God. I definitely require someone who doesn't have this problem.
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I am looking for:
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Basically all the things I've expressed thus far about myself minus what I've said about my exhusband. I would especially like to add that I cannot accomodate a man with a high sex drive. This is how my ex was and he was NEVER satisfied. I have to be honest here. Those sex videos, magazines, songs and websites feed the fires of lust and eventually leads to fornication & adultery. So if you use it in any form I am not interested because I will not go through that again. It is a turn off for me. Worldliness is a turn off. Holiness is a turn on. A godly man whom I can trust with my heart and my body is most sensual to me.
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My funniest life experience:
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When I lived in Miami, FL my coworker & I went to a high class ball for the Ambassador to the United Nations from China. We were invited by our supervisor who knew him. Well, we were totally out of our league but we wore the best we had. People at our table were "admiring" my phony necklace & earrings. If only they knew. Anyway, we were in line to greet the Ambassador which we did and he moved on down the line. Well, just at that moment my friend says in a low but intense whisper, "Turn around and walk out the front door, now! I don't want you to be embarrassed." I looked at her and asked "Why? What's wrong?" She said, "Don't looked down but my pantyhose just broke at the waist and they're at my ankles!" Well I did take a peek anyway before leaving the room and going behind a huge potted plant in the hallway. Sure enough, her pantyhose were draped around her ankles! By the time she exited trying to walk as fast as she could considering her girth and predicament and got behind the potted plant with me, she burst out laughing! We were rolling with laughter and crying, hooting and trying not to holler! The very dignified Chinese workers and guests who saw us remained stoic and pretty much acted like they didn't see or hear a thing. We found a restroom and discarded the pantyhose and laughed for many months thereafter about how we "crashed" a high class party.
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Cool Movies:
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"Love Comes Softly", Revelation", "Left Behind", just about all Christian movies. I need to give this more thought.
Secular: "Mr. Holland's Opus", "Dragon Heart", "Diary Of A Mad Black Woman", "Spiderman". This isn't a complete list.
Favorite TV show: "LOST". Can we talk about "LOST"?
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My Favorite Groups are:
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All worship music, Contemporary/Pop/Alternative/Rock Christian (Shane & Shane, Chris Tomlin, MW Smith, Third Day, Selah, Casting Crowns), Building 429,
Some Gospel music like Juanita Bynum's worship album.
Definitely not a complete list.
Favorite classical song: Moonlight Sonata.
Soundtracks: Mr. Holland's Opus, Glory, Dragon Heart.
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I am looking for a personality like:
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I enjoy friendly, gentle, laid back men. Men who are articulate and can express themselves, who are able to explain their feelings and thoughts but without being too overbearing are ideal for me and my personality.
I am extremely honest, loyal, a trustworthy woman. I will continue communicating until I get an understanding when there is conflict. My deepest desire or need is to be understood and appreciated because I really do try my best.
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Are you willing to compromise in difficult times and situations?
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My ex said he wanted to try to reconcile after being separated for over a year. I told him that he needed to cut off all contact with this other woman immediately and forever. This is what all the experts said must happen to rebuild trust. He didn't want to do this "cold turkey". After going back and forth and thinking for some days, I relunctantly went against my better judgment and counsel and agreed to his terms of ending this adulterous affair. Within a week, things broke down permanently between us.
I am most willing to compromise on none biblical issues that may have no right or wrong answer but I will never again compromise on things which are clearly wrong just to save a relationship.
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Willingness to meet others from boM:
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I have met people off of the internet. In fact, I have 2 groups which I lead on the internet. I have also married a penpal before. So I am OK and use to this type of thing.
I am very willing to meet people from this site; people who I feel are safe and OK to hang with after getting to know them online for a time. I am not looking to remarry tomorrow. I am still healing from my failed marriage. But I was previously separated and living a single life for 1 1/2 years prior to the divorce so I have had a lot of time to work things out inside. I am ready to meet and gain male friendships. I have no other male relationships.
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Are you ready to start from scratch?
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I am ready to start from scratch with someone new though I wish I didn't have to. To me, it takes a lot of time to really know a person well enough to consider marriage. Oh well, may as well get started!
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My typical day:
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My day is pretty noneventful. I get up at 5:30 am for work. I run out the door at 6:13 am to get my 1st of 4 buses. If I miss it, I take a 10 minute walk to bus #2. At the mall I hop on bus 3 and 2 miles from work I catch bus 4. I'm usually about 30 minutes early. I go to breakfast, read my Bible, pray and try to collect myself. I start at 8:30 and I am totally overwhelmed and overworked for the next several hours (new job, under trained, need a 2nd person). At 5pm, I reverse everything I just told about the buses except I take a slightly different route. Once home at around 7:30 pm, I turn on my computer, my TV to see what I missed. God and I just kinda hangout for the evening as I prepare for the next day of work, eat something healthy (usually baked fish & veggies). Then off to sleep. My perfect date would be as follows: Meet at my church, Strictly Biblical Bible Teaching Ministries for class 10 am. Go into Worship service 11 am. Go for lunch afterwards to talk, laugh and see if we connect spiritually. There MUST be a connection or commonality on this level to proceed to the next as far as a future spouse is concerned. Of course, we could always remain friends and just hang out sometimes as Christians.
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My Wish List Includes:
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Oh, boy! I want to sing on my church's worship team so badly. I love singing and worshipping the Lord. Worship is my passion. I'm just really shy about expressing this before others. The Lord has really set me up. He has me doing things I never would have tried before. He's pushing me out of my shell. I feel like I'm out in deep waters and can't swim! He keeps me afloat. I know one day I will accomplish this dream and perhaps even surpass it.
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