More The City by the Lake ...
LITERARYDEMON - What's to say, if you want to know more email me. Please no winks, they're pointless! And don't ask to be friends if we haven't spoken. I said I'd get around to filling in some specifics, well 'some' turned insane. *Shrugs*I'm a writer that can't shut up!
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| The City by the Lake ..., Illinois Dating
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| Response Rate: 83%
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| Less than average
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| I work out every day!
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| Libra
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| Caucasian
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| M
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| 30 years of age
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| Bloodshot eyes
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| Brown
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| 221 lbs - 230 lbs
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| 5'11 - 6'
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| Single
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| Writer, Artist, Carpenter, and Contractor
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| I'd rather not say
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| Here For
Friends
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People say that I am:
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The dumb basterds! My friends, Less and Jess, both had filled out about ten pages worth of info to this question, with the occasional comment from me. Well, my sweet, kind, dear friends, in their infinite wisdom, have decided to delete the whole damn thing today!!! So. who's to say what this question will sport in the near future.
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Things that have bothered me:
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The cheating bothered me.
The close minded attitude bothered me.
Not willing to try new things bothered me.
The constant shallow criticisms bothered me.
The depreciative negative harping and nagging bothered me.
And I'll mention it again, the cheating bothered me, that tops the list.
There are too many bad experiences with the wrong girls.
I once had, a very long time ago, a weakness for girls with arrogant intelligence, hard ass egos, probably also unique eccentricities, harsh pride. Of course it's still a weakness, such powerful personalities are undeniably attractive, but aren't in the least bit healthy or real. Only someone who's been in a relationship with such a person understands the heartache that is almost unavoidable. These people tend to leave you wanting more, and of course they aren't able to because they don't know how. I'm being more politically correct with that then I should!
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I am looking for:
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She has to be unconventional, eccentric, infuriated by the status quo & infatuated with the unigue. She has an undefinable personality yet a defined individualism, not some prepackaged cereal box personality.
She's a strong willed & tough girl, hot tempered but very forgiving. If I'm angry & throwing a tantrum for whatever reason, (Cubs loosing the series, George Lucas screwing up Star Wars Episodes 7 through 9, some flaky religious group taking a political crap to ban Harry Potter etc.) she'll get in my face, (provided that she disagrees with me or thinks I'm an idiot, the second is more likely!) going toe to toe with me, and not shrieking in terror. That's when I smile, anger long forgotten, and give the most passionate kiss I'm capable of, the angrier the more passionate the kiss. To put this another way, there's nothing more attractive then a passionately confrontational personality, refusing to be backed into corners and doing some charging of her own, but also be able to smile during those raw tense moments and still love. I could never raise my hand in anger against any girl, but kissing in anger, definately! If she can do the same we could be immortals.
Also, she should be loyal, no cheaters, if you feel the need to cheat on me, then break up with me. I would not cheat on my girl, never ever. If my attention wonders then it's time to get out, but never cheat during the relationship. I've been cheated on, many times in fact. I know how it hurts, hurts real bad, and I couldn't do that to her.
Les and Jesse; Some emotional scars never heal, do they Orie?
Me; Your not allowed to call me that, it's reserved for people who actually like me!
Les and Jesse; LOL
She's a girl that doesn't mind public displays of affection, in fact insists on them. Personally I could care less who's watching or for that matter how many, and she shouldn't care either. When we're together nothing exists except our little world that we created for ourselves, and we express our affection as we need to, as much as we need to, without a care in the world about anyone else.
She's very affectionate, caring, loves hugs & kisses, loves to be touched, loves to be held, to be hungered after. It's ok if she's sometimes clingy or sometimes needy, even sometimes solitary, but always willing to be playful.
I should also mention that my ideal girl has a love for reading and an extremely strong passion for creative writing. If she's a writer, then all is well with the world. It's not quite a necessity, well, sort of. It's more hope than necessity. I'm looking for a relationship set in stone, or should I say set in print, like Stephen and Tabitha King share. And maybe, it couldn't hurt, if she also loved Fanatsy, Horror, Gothic, and Sci/Fi culture, since it's such a big part of my life.
She has to take care of herself. This is a touchy subject for some, others will agree. I want to live a very long time, and I want to do so with someone I care about. What's the point of eternity if your alone? So good health is very important! Good hygiene is very important! She should care to stay fit. If she wants to workout with me in whatever way, then I'll be happy beyond words. I enjoy working out with my girl, it can be just as fun as any other activity, and intimate beyond words, like mountain biking through forest trails, hiking on a beach, lifting w e i g h t's in the gym.
She's someone fearless, a unique sense of adventure is definately a plus. Sometimes willing to risk the dangers for the fun of it, like river rafting, horseback riding, climbing a waterfall, swimming with the sharks. Ok, the last one was rhetorical because I can't swim very well.
She should be open minded, willing to try new things. Experience everything at least once, and learn to obsess over the things she loves most. Sometimes she likes leaving reality far behind, not caring what others think, and becoming part of the moment rather than an observer.
Example; A very good example! Like getting dressed up in costume for the Renaissance Fair. If I can put on 80 pounds of armor or some other form of medievel, fantasy, warrior costume that I came up with, she should be excited to dress up with me as well.
Fine, since the fool and his girlfriend had to mention it, lets talk LARP'ing. If she likes it, great! Awsome! It's a lot of fun and I'd like to share it with my girl. If not, if she hates it, that's fine too, but she has to tolerate it because I'm not stopping. This is a part of my life that keeps me seprate from the boredom of the real world.
And now, finally, we come to the unbreakable rule, we come to this, changing. She will never try to change me!, as I would never try to change her! If we're in a relationship, that means I'm in love with all your bad habits and traits as well. In fact, I feel so strongly about this, that this is not negotiable. She likes me for who and what I am, and will happily encourage me to continue being me, even if that means social redicule, international outrage, or a twenty minute spot on, America's Most Wanted. She will except me for all my faults and quirks, likes me because of them, and will not try to invent some cologne commercial, stereotype male persona.
Les and Jess; Honey you are a cologne commercial, stereotype male persona!
Me; Did Les just call me, honey?
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My funniest life experience:
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Going camping with close friends at the WoodHaven Lakes camping resort. It's one of those funny experinces one just can't forget.
We were forced to sleep in our cars because the camping trailer, belonging to one of my best friends, was infested with colonies of insects, and that's putting it mildly. It was bad, it was Indian Jones in the Temple of Doom bad!
We identified at least 3 diffrent species of roaches, there were waterbugs everywhere inside the screen porch, and ticks on the ceilings would drop on us like paratroopers in search for blood. An entire wall was covered in chinese ladybugs, and they like to bite. We found a wasp's nest in the roll out shutters, a bubblebee nest under a flower pot, and carpenter bee nest in the wooden railings. At least 15 speicies of spiders we identified, from about nickle size to as big as golfballs, plus earwigs and carpenter ants waging war under the trailer, and firebugs buzzing in the woodchips. Not mentioning entire clouds of mosquito's dive bombing anything with warm blood. There was much more, a biologists dream come true, and our night mare.
One of my buddies was cornered by a giant wasp. Yes, a giant wasp!, looked like any regular wasp, dangerous and lethal, only that it happened to be the size of a tennis ball cut in half, and I'm not blowing it out of proportion.
I never knew a 6'2" 260 pound man could shriek like a 11 year old girl at a Justin Timberlake concert.
We lost the war! 11 cans of various Raid products, which we bought at a near by general store, a case of smoke bombs, handsprayers filled with industrial pesticides and Centronella candle buckets we found at a HomeDepot, and flaming torches we made from tree branches, Centronella oil, vodka, and gasoline, and we still lost the war.
We were in residence with pestulance.
But the experience was funny. It was interesting watching large grown man, shrieking in terror, as a praying mantis, startled by our flamming centronella bucket that we happen to put near the bush it was hiding in, flew directly into us as we were all bunched up near what we called the safety zone, which we created with fire. We felt like Marines battling an Alien Queen!
The girls didn't even entertain the notion of leaving the cars, they just took silly pictures of us pretending to fight lions when we were actually dealing with bugs. I'm not embarrassed though, that praying mantis just wasn't rational!
We ended up renting a BUG FREE cabin, which the girl's insisted on getting. Ok, we insisted as well, but they refused to go inside until we inspected it for signs of face hugging aliens, which later they found out that we were actually the face sucking aliens!
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Cool Movies:
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The Harry Potter movies, The Lord of the Rings trilogy,
Resident Evil 1 and 2, Blade trilogy, Jurassic Park movies,
All Kevin Smith movies, Quentin Tarantino movies, Bruce Campbell movies,
Tombstone, King Arthur, The Man In The Iron Mask,
Goonies, All the Indiana Jones flicks, Aliens
Lost In Translations, Hitch, You've Got Mail, Beautiful Girls,
Etc . . . To many to list. Pretty much everything SciFi, Fantasy, Horror, Goth, and Anime.
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My Favorite Groups are:
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Everything that's; Hard Rock, Heavy Metal, Alternative, Indusrtrial, Techno, Gothic, and New Age.
Some 80's Rock, anime soundtracks, as well as Celtic and Japanese music.
Favorite bands; Metallica, Korn, Disturbed, Godsmack, Guns N' Roses, Hoobastank, Nickelback, Rob Zombie, Shinedown, System Of A Down, Evanescence, Finger Eleven, Gin Blossoms, AeroSmith, Nirvana, Candle Box, SoundGarden
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I am looking for a personality like:
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First question . . . This question is fairly stupid, there are no personality traits in others that help me be myself, I just am.
Second question . . . There are no qualities in others that make me feel at ease, I'm always at ease. I never worry about what to do or say, I do what I do. I do have a moral barometer, although I do admite of ignoring or forgetting it when with certain personality types.
Third question . . . I possess an alpha quality that makes almost everyone feel comfortable around me, but that's only when I choose to use it! This means, when I'm not being "atogonistic or brooding" of course, I can change my personality according to the people I'm dealing with. I don't judge. I'm a great listener and enjoy it. I'm very laid back, often criticized as being to accomidating. I become what you need me to be, unless angry, then you have to deal with the wolves on their ground.
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Are you willing to compromise in difficult times and situations?
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Ha, that's good! Every relationship I've ever been in I've had to comprimise or sacrifice to keep things rolling. At nearly every situation, I've had to go against what I wanted for the sake of someone elses needs. The few times I've strong armed what I wanted, ended either with hurt feelings or gross misunderstandings.
I have a very focused attention to detail, and I can fix nearly any situation, historically at a larger part of my expense. Generally I don't care, I don't mind it, and I can accomidate almost anyone. But on the rarest of occastions, when I really want something, I'm as accomidating as a Brahma Bull . . . "I don't care! We are not going to visit your uncle Dubbai in the hospital because your aunt Varta shot him in the butt with a bow, we're going to New Zealand to walk with the Hobbits! And that's, that!"
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Willingness to meet others from boM:
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Yes, I'm very willing to meet people on this service.
Yes, I really am looking to meet someone.
Yes, I am also here to have fun and meet new friends.
Yes, I have met a girl on a dating service before, and she was amazing, we got along perfectly. Unfortunately she had to move away to Alaska on a research grant, which in female spy code means . . . I've met someone else and don't want to see you again!
Les and Jesse;Which means you scared the crap out of her and Alaska was just far enough for here to feel safe!
But the internet is a perfect way to meet girls, since your dealing strictly with the mind, the physical attraction will come later when we meet in person . . . who knows, maybe lightning can strike twice.
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My typical day:
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I live at home with my mother and grandmother. Not because I have to, but because I want to. My dad ran out on us years ago, that's a paraphrase for a long, very bitter, and violent divorce.
If I had left home, moving on with my life as most tend to do when hitting an age of freedom, I'd carry the guilt of abandoning my mom just like my father had done. Guilt is something I don't want or need, I'd rather trade it in for what's behind door number 2, even if it's just a set of steak knives or a Slip'n Slide.
My schedule is practically none existant, my time is spent accomidating other's needs, be it family or friends. I have my mother and grandmother to take care of, or maybe they take care of me, depends how you look at it. The house of course needs attention, as does my dog, Rock. There's always something that needs doing. That all sets what I can and can't do. My schedule changes from day to day, according to others needs. But I do get plenty of down time all to myself.
I get up somewhere around 4 PM. Yes, I'm a night person. And I hate mornings, much more preferring to spend that time sleeping. I shower, eat, do some chores if I must, and then I write. Blissful, sweet writing!
I take regular breaks from writing by going out, maybe to the lake, or exploring downtown Chicago, maybe get Starbucks and drive around, or try some new resturant I discovered. Most often I end up at a bookstore with a cafe to do some reading and more writing. Sometimes I camp out at a coffee shop like Starbuck's or Carabou Coffee for the scholarly eclectic atmosphere. Again, you guessed it, more writing, of course when I'm not flirting with the cute barista girls.
Once it's dark however, I become . . . well, more who I really am. This is the time I love most. If writing, it is the most intensive and hard core I'm capable of doing. If relaxing, I'm at my most peaceful, charmed by the night and the majesty of stars. If raging, it's like the devils come home to Chicago. Driving, it feels like the city is yours to do with as you please. The city is gorgeous at night, the lake only enhancing the mood. My imagination is on fire at night, and if I need to stretch my legs from sitting long periods of time at the desk, a good change of scenery, I take the dog out for walks. It's absolutely great to take a long quiet walk when the world is asleep. People sleeping in their beds, dreaming, it's cliched, I know, but I feel most connected to the world during this time, it seems more real to me then, than during the day. I patrol the neighborhoods, or maybe the correct word is prowl, and imagine, dream, meditate, whatever comes to mind. The dog loves this time since he gets to chase rabbits, raccoons, possums without being bothered by those pesky humans.
I have several jobs that change regularly, from construction to carpentry, but I have an enormous amount of time all to myself. I spend that time evolving my writing craft and if the mood hits me just right, I draw, paint, and sculpt, for which eventually gets sold on Ebay for extra spending money. My art work is pretty good, it's my natural talent, and I do it only when inspired so as not to cheapen it.
Mornings are spent listening to morning radio, Mancow if I can tune in. I finish up any last minute chores, fullfill any obligations or needs that others demand of me. Then I hit the showers again, smelling good is important and I can't sleep usually until after a hot shower, and then it's sleepy time.
It's basic anarchy, odd people, friends, family, animals, coming and going all the time. My schedule changes all the time, but I try to fit everything in. I don't panic or melt down if things get to hectic, but I will throw down the gauntlets and tantrum a devils sum of hatred if someone distracts me from the things that are most important to me, and those things are a secret.
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My Wish List Includes:
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Actually, I would love to build my own house. Over the years I've made many plans of my own designs that I would love to see built.
Recently I've discovered a small desire to one day buy one of those old abandond coldwar missle sillo's that the government is selling off. Imagine this, the empty core cylinder where the missle was housed, being converted into a 4 story building, all underground. With another area of living space about the size of a large studio apartment, where once the underground control room existed. Then above ground, building a multi tiered mansion, the underground ficility a secret to all, except of course to the Pentegon! Plus several acres of land, maybe for pools, maybe a stable, or archery range! Just an idea though!
I would love to open my own buisness, something crossed between a Bed & Breakfast, a tavern, restuarant, and medieval fantasy inn, mostly deco'ed in a gothic, medieval, and Renaissance . Can't forget large basement game rooms where us "Losers" can roleplay! Maybe with large open grounds near a lush forest or camp ground, where one can go horseback riding, or camping, or LARP.
Les and Jesse; A place where you never have to deal with the outside world ever again, where emotionally and psychologically disturbed individuals, like yourself, completely out of touch with reality, can continue to feed each other's neurosis's. Isn't that what we call . . . a Cult?
Me; Shouldn't you be at the mall, in the bushes of the food court, with your pants around your ankles, sucking on a blueberry slurpee, while hym'ing and hauw'ing your way into yet another after school special with your friend Mall Rats? You ignorant wretch's! What's that Britney Spears song you love so much, 'Someday I Will Understand What STD Stands For' ???
I'm talking about a place where writer's, scholars, students, and hobbyists of gothic. medieval, and fantasy subcultures, including you 'normal' people, like Les and Jesse, ahem, hungry for the unusual, can come to enjoy themselves in a none conforming atmosphere, away from the monotony of status quo, fruitcake and sunshine, hypocrites!
Les and Jesse; LMAO Look at this touchy mother F'er right here? Looks like someone 'censored' in his cereal. Bong! Dude, that's why we keep you around! You make us laugh!
Me; Told you, everyone loves Kevin Smith, even if they don't know it or are in denile. 'Son of Juraal, kneel before Zod! Snouchy bouches!'
Enough! Travel! I would love to travel, as far from Jesse and Les as possible, places like Australlia, New Zealand, Ireland, Scotland, England, Iceland, Greenland, Norway, Denmark, oh, and Japan would be cool. These places are at least friendly. I'd love to visit many other places through Europe, Africa, and Asia, India would be awsome, but American's are so often hated by most in these places then what's the point of going.
I have hundreds of things I'l like to try, but am constrained by current situations. Somethings I want to do and am scared of, sky diving, but I doubt I'll build up the courage to ever do it again. Another thing would be everything to do with humans slidding down snow on fiberglass and wood, or surfing for that matter. I'm willing to try.
Les and Jesse; How about seeing a girl naked? LOL
Me; Does Jesse count?
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Religion is sometimes important to me in relationships.
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I'm not Materialistic.
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I Don't Smoke.
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I Drink Sometimes.
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I Like Pets.
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I Like To Travel.
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I am an Active Person.
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Sometimes I spend long hours at work.
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Sometimes I am a spontaneous person.
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Friends Are Important to me.
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Sometimes I enjoy having a competitive partner.
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Sometimes I like clubs/bars.
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My life is somewhat stressfull.
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I Try to stay in Shape.
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I sometimes want to get married.
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Sometimes I feel that I would like to have kids.
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Sometimes I can be stubborn.
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I Love going to the Movies.
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Sex Is Important to me.
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Sometimes it's important to have a clean house.
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