LITTLEIRISHROSE - Sweet, pretty, funny, loyal lady lookin for same in a man.
Cottage Grove, Oregon
Response Rate: 21%
Above average
Smokin' Hot
Virgo
Caucasian
F
23 years of age
5'3 - 5'4
Single
Student
Here For
Long Term Relationship
People say that I am:
"Emily? She's hillarious!" People say that all the time. Very funny. "Em is hella pretty." I'm a good looking lady. I have the cute little freckled dark haired irish girl thing going on. I'm also very curvy. 36, 25, 38 are my measurements. "Em is really loyal. you can call her day or night if something happends and she'll be there." I have a small ammount of close friends, but I would die for them. I would drop anything to help my friends in any way that I could. I am fiercly loyal. Mom says that's an irish thing too :)
I'm a romantic, very passionate. I can be deep in conversations but also just talk about nothing and have a perfectly good time. I'm not vain, I'm not selfish, I'm not a liar. I'm not a girly girl at all but I do dress up sometimes. I do like to look nice but I also like to sit in my pajamas and watch Xena warrior princess. My friend Lois said to me "Emily, you worked here with me for two years, and in all that time, through all the gossip and cat fights and bull , not one person, not ONE ever said anything bad about you. That was so strange. Everyone liked you. That's really rare." So I guess most people really like me. I try hard to be agreeable and I try not to judge (except a badly placed joke or something). They'd probably talk about me liking video games and playing with the boys, beating up the boys in game. They'd describe me as helpful, kind, compassionate, a good advice friend. Generally happy though I am an emotional person so I do get upset sometimes. however, all I really need is just a hug and an "it's going to be ok". I don't expect people to solve my problems for me, just for them to listen to my sadnesses and be there for me so I am not alone while I solve them myself.
I can be stubborn, I can have a temper, and I can get my feelings hurt sort of easily. I don't like being alone much but I'm not a crazy stalker clingy girl, just prefer to be in the company of people I like. Most of my boyfriends I saw once a day, and the one I really cared about I wanted to live with. this was because I wanted to wake up next to him and smile at his face ya know? I just enjoy being around the people I love. I'm extroverted, I love people, I love my friends, and I've never had a complaint from my friends that they didn't like being around me or that I asked too much of them. Of course, one would hope to find friends like that, after all.
Things that have bothered me:
I dated a man whom I loved more than anything. Was the first person I ever learned to love selflessly. But he didn't know himself at all. He was obsessed with fantasies, the ideas of the "women" and things he was missing while I was with him. I couldn't be ok with him wanting to sleep with other women, but I was not bothered at all with him having guy friends, going out, doing fun things. It really hurt my feelings that he thought I was holding him back so much, when really, I was trying to do the opposite and tell him it was ok for him to have a life. He somehow misinterpreted me likeing his company so much that I was around him everyday as me not wanting him to do or see anything else. It was really odd. I decided after a while that he saw me as a person that I wasn't and nothing I could do or say would change his mind. He was also an alcoholic and had done a lot of drugs growing up (cocain, acid, mushrooms, extasy) and was a pothead for many many years up until I met him, though then he suddenly replaced his drug and alcohol addiction with me until the "newness" of the relationship wore off. Then he went back to drinking heavily (I'd never known an alcoholic so I didn't know what was going on) and was just plain mean to me sometimes.
What bothered me the most in all this is that he didn't know what he wanted. He would love me more than anything one day, then two weeks later he'd tell me that he was having fantasies about other women and didn't want a relationship. I didn't like being yo-yo'd. My feelings for him stayed constant. I loved him. I did my best to help him but you cannot help someone who won't help themselves. These are the lessons I"ve learned and they've been hard. I'm an optimist at heart and a very hopeful person, and sometimes that and love can blind you to the fact that people don't see you the way you think they see you. I want to be loved by someone who isn't afraid to tell me they love me (in private, you don't have to yell it in the street). Who isn't intimidated by feelings to the point of shutting down. And someone who has an idea of what they want, a pretty clear idea. "I want a girlfriend". Not someone who wants me, then doesn't want me, then can't live without me, then wants time to be alone so someday maybe things will turn out.
This is all serious stuff though. When I first get to know someone I'm thinking things like "Gosh I hope we have things in common." Or "He's an attractive fellow." I'm not thinking "God will he love me and appreciate me for who I truly am!" Because honestly, I dont' know you yet. I will have high hopes, but I won't put things on you that aren't you. And if I do, please call me on it.
I'm bothered by: Materalistic people, people who are self centered, 'players', people who can't make decisions and stick to them, people who wallow in their own problems so much that they can't be there for others, very conservative people, people who lie, people who are overly vain, people who walk on others.
Mostly, I don't want to fall in love with another man who doesn't have the emotional ability to love anyone. I don't want another relationship with someone who doesn't really WANT a relationship but thinks I'm pretty and funny and a good sex buddy therefore he doesn't want to let me go either. It's inredibly painful to feel like you aren't enough for someone that you love. I don't want to enter into another relationship with a "I don't believe that there is perminancy in relationships, I don't want to ever be married again, I don't ever want children, I don't ever want to feel like I'm not "free" "
I'm basically looking for a nice guy, because I am honestly a nice girl. And if I'm not interested in you, or attracted to you for whatever reason, I will tell you this streight up, kindly, so that I dont' waste your time or hurt your heart. I am not looking for someone to hurt I'm looking for someone to love :)
I am looking for:
Qualities in a partner:
attractiveness. This isn't only physical, it's emotional too. Chemestry is important though I wish I could wave it on account of nice fellows I"ve met whom I just don't feel anything for.
Self esteem, he's got to like himself. It's impossible to love someone when you don't love yourself, or at least, like yourself. I like me, I hope you like me too, you like you and I hope I do too.
Honesty, don't ever lie to me. I won't lie to you. It'll just undermine the relationship so there is no point.
Communication, talk to me! tell me what you need and want. I can't give you things that you won't tell me. Also, if you realise I can't give you everything you need, tell me this, it's a horrible thing to learn once you've fallen in love with someone.
Friendship, I could never be intimate with anyone who wasn't my friend. I don't just want a boyfriend or a husband eventually. I want a BEST friend who is also a boyfriend.
Compassion, you've got to care for others and be able to put yourself second sometimes. I promise I will put myself second for you or I will not get into a relationship with you in the first place. That's my promise.
Appreciation, nothing harder than working your ass off to make someone happy and have them not only not happy, but blame you for their unhappiness. Tell me you care, tell me thank you, and sometimes, do nice things for me in return. I love kisses.
Love, gotta be willing to work not just on you and not just on me but on the relationship. Gotta love me for me and not for who you think I am. If you don't know who I am, ask me. I promise i'll ask you, so tell me the truth to the best of your ability.
Humor, I love to laugh. i love to make people laugh. IF you make me laugh I will love you even more. It is a rare gift to be funny, but it's acceptable to simply be able to laugh. Laugh with me.
Equality, we're equals. I'm not better than you nor you me. I'm not the little woman and you're not the (feminish perspective) abusive overpowering male. We're just two people of different genders, the same in our lives. Hold me to the same standards as yourself and all will be well.
Hope, have hope in life, have aspirations in life and goals you want to do. Have hope in our relationship. Have hope that I'll eventually stop talking lol. seriously though, I'm wordy because i"m trying to be as honest and open as I can be.
Commitment, here's the scarry one! Basically, do what you say you are going to do. If you love me and want to be with just me, stick to that! Don't bungee back and forth "I love you, I don't I love you I don't". If you think you may love me but don't know for sure, tell me that. Be on the same page as me. Be happy with being only with me if you're with me. I promise you will have no worries about my dedication to you. I have a rule, I let people go if I can't be 100% to them. It's not fair to just keep someone hanging on. I was the hanger on-er in my last relationship that failed and it sucked hard. Nothing is worse I think than the enevitability that your relationship is going to fail because the person you're with doesn't feel the same and just bothered to not tell you that back when feelings could have been not hurt so much, or a solution could have been found. Let me know often what page you are on in our relationship.
Romance, cmon, I'm a lady, a very passionate one. You gotta do nice things for me. Do you know that no man that i've truly loved has ever bought me flowers? Not even one. In fact, I have never recieved a valentines day present. I am very pleased with any attempt from my guy to show me how he cares, and you will never lack for apprecaition. Again, if I don't appreciate you, I won't keep you around and waste your time.
I know I'm forgetting all sorts of things. Basically, be a fun loyal person with a sense of humor, attractive to me, funny, compassionate, adventurous and understanding. Be patient with me, like everyone, I've had my bumps and bruises to my emotions. I promise I'll be sensative to your past wounds too.
Be reassuring, be kind, be honest.
My funniest life experience:
Oh I love telling stories!
I worked in an indian casino in northern california for three years. I was out of my element really. Most of the patrons were red necks, senior citizens, or meth freaks. Yet, somehow, in this place that was so negative, I had a good time mostly. However, every once in a while the customers would be a little more strange than I knew what to do with.
I was once washing my hands after peeing in the ladies restroom and an older lady, grandma aged, walked into the restroom. She was looking at herself in the mirror and said "Pst! Pst! Hey, you!"
I looked over at her.
"yes ma'am?" She looked around to see if anyone else was around, then bent over, and pulled her pants down, mooning me with her old elderly crinkled cheeks. My mouth fell open.
"Hey girl, look at my cheek there you see the tattoo?" I looked. There was indeed an old faided ink tattoo that covered most of her left cheek.
"Yes I see it." I said, being very aware that if my manger or someone walked in this would look very bad.
"stick your head down there and tell me the date on that thing will ya?"
"Excuse me?" I said as nicely as I could.
"Yeah just have a look, I can't see it myself cause it's on my butt." I thought for a moment then figured it was rude to not, plus I didn't have a good excuse to leave so I did. I bent over and got close to this ladys ass. I had to get really close because it was faided from age.
"August 7th " I read alloud right to her crack.
"72?!" She said, flipping around and pulling back up her pants. "Never let them brand you honey." She said, patting me on the head, picking her tooth in the mirror, then leaving the bathroom.
Casinos are very very surreal places.
Cool Movies:
In no particular order: Moulin rouge, independece day, chicago, indianna jones, stardust, to wong foo thanks for everything julie newmar, willow, star wars, mrs doubtfire, throw mama from the train, blazing saddles, space balls, dracula dead and loving it, sherlock holmses smarter brother, caddyshack, batman (all of them), superman 1 and 2 (origional), old musicals, legend, waking ned devine, anything with nicole kidman, anything with orlando bloom (he's a cutie pie), I am legend, signs, lady in the water, so many many movies. I love fantasy, sci-fi fantasy, comedy, stand up comedy, good dramas, good suspense. I'm a movie fan. Just not stupid red neck comedy or slasher movies (I don't hate them but they aren't my favorite) or movies that are violent with no plot. I even like adult films. Oh yes, I very much like them, as long as it isn't really horrible. The stuff that doesn't make you aroused but makes you go "what the hell?" yeah dont' like that stuff. But no I don't own any adult films really, just have rented it from time to time.
My Favorite Groups are:
I like individual songs more than bands. I like classic rock a lot. I like some pop, some dance, disco. But I also like alternative music, oldies, classical. I love madonna, cher, alantis morresette, aretha franklin, the beatles, QUEEN! queen is awesome. They'd prolly be my favorite band just because I love almost all of their songs. That's the first time in my life I've been able to pick a favorite band. I also love garbage, cranberries, celtic music (it's so fun on curvy road trips in green forests!), musicals (I know a lot), prince, eighties (most of it).
I basically don't like rap, country, loud yelling music of any kind but there are some small exceptions to even those genres.
I am looking for a personality like:
This is easy. I went through a relationship where I gave 150% and the fellow could/would only give about 23%. Basically, I never felt appreciated. I felt like I was inconveniencing him and walked on eggshells a lot. This is odd because I'm not a timid person by nature, nor do I have a bad self esteem or anything. I learned that in a relationship I need someone to be comfortable being with me, and only with me. They shouldn't feel annoyed or guity or sad that they are missing out on other women. Honestly, i'd thought this was a given for people who wanted a relationship but it seems not everyone so I'm putting it down.
I am a helper by nature, and a very deeply emotional kind lady. I am at ease when I know the person I really care about appreciates and loves me as well. It's not hard to show. Just a hug and a kiss when you get home, an occasional note on your computer desk. A call when he leaves work to ask you how your day went. Things like that. I think these things are wonderful and not too much to ask of anyone in a relationship. I'm an honest person and I try very very hard to make sure that people know exactly how I am feeling and why. On the flip side, I always listen to people when issues come up. I never had a problem thinking of the other persons needs and wants, nor discussing compromises. I am NOT a princess. I am not one of those manipulative women who want you to serve them and think you should thank your lucky stars to be with them. I want someone who is my equal, not above me, not below me. I want to be treated as I treat the person I care about.
I believe people when they tell me something. So if a guy tells me he cares about me and I'm his lady, that's that. I'm not jellous unless I'm given a reason to be IE: he tells me he's interested in being with other women. If I did get jellous I would fess up to it, and talk it out. I don't like being jellous I think it shows distrust in the person you're with generally.
I'm a nurse by nature. I love taking care of people that I love. It gives me purpose. When I've loved people before I e on them. Make them sandwiches, take their temperature when they're sick and bring them juice. Just on a first getting to know you basis, most people are comfortable around me. I'm friendly, kind and most people think very funny. A lot of the people I've been friends with are introverts and they like hanging out with me because I'm sort of an ongoing 'show'. I love to tell stories, and I honestly love to make people feel good around me. I'm not quiet in public settings unless i"m thinking or sad.
I like when people are romantic. I'm quite a romantic. Some of my happier times were exchanging romantic things with my fellows. Little things, hearts on the window, a flower on the drawer, a surprise visit and kiss at work. These things are lovely, but not neccisary all the time. I'm a realistic romantic after all. I know that fights happen, that arguments happen, that personalities clash. It can't always be singing and roses, or passionate sex night. Too bad huh? Such is life though.
Qualities that you would have that would help us to get along: Sense of humor, wit, intellegence, one on one personality (IE: happy with one lady at a time), moderate or moderately liberal, friendly, ability communicate a MUST, honesty a MUST, abiliy to listen as well as talk. That's communication though. Friendly, not a miser. Not an alcoholic, not a druggy, not a miser who stays in his room and is sad all the time (I like being at home with my computer too, but not to the extreme of doing nothing else ever). Someone with hope and optimism, the ability to trust me as well. I suppose most important is someone who feels similiarly about the above mentioned things (in general). No 'pimps' no players, just good desent guys who want a good desent lady.
Are you willing to compromise in difficult times and situations?
Hell yes!
I had a man who I was in love with say that he wanted to be with me, but that his dream was to retire in Japan. I don't see any reason to move to japan and I didn't understand his reasoning, but I promised him that if he was good to me and agreed to compromise with me (he didn't want children and I do, he had two already) that I would be happy to move anywhere in the world he wanted to go. and I meant it. Because sometimes people have dreams that you either jumkp on board for, or you have to leave them behind. And honestly, what an adventure to be in Japan. Even if it wasn't my adventure, I'd be extremely happy to have gone to be with him to live with him and help him to achieve that dream. Unfortunatley, even the hypothetical notion of me wanting to be a mom "someday", as i'm not ready yet, was too much for him and he couldn't handle it. It's sad though, because i think it would have been fun to raise a child in another country. What an adventure for them! And if they have loving supportive parents, I think a kid can thrive regardless.
There also were times when my ex would go and drink and in the middle of the night he would call me somewhere and ask me to pick him up. Now I was asleep, about 14 miles away from him, had no shoes, and had to drive a heaterless clutch jeep through non street lit highways. Oh did I mention it was hailing? But you know what? I was worried about him, and I wanted him home safe. So I got up, and I ran through the hail in my freezing feet and I shivvered my way 14 miles and when I got there he was in a poker game. And he asked me "Please can I just finish a few more hands?" And I let him. Because I was so happy he was out having a good time, and that he called me to help him, that I was willing to sit there really cold and wait for him to finish his game. In fact, I cheered him on. I don't feel bad for it at all, nor put upon. I simply am sad that he wasn't able to do anywhere near the same thing for me. I don't have a problem compromising. I'm a twin, I've never even gotten a birthday to myself. That shouldn't be a problem. And don't worry because if it is, we'll talk it through. It'll be ok long as you care enough to meet me halfway most of the time.
Willingness to meet others from boM:
I'm really looking to meet someone! I not only would like friends as I'm new to the area but gosh I really am ready to finally find someone likeminded to love. It's been a hard run. It's hard to put yourself out there and get hurt ya know? But I'ma do it again because it's going to be worth it in the long run. Someone will appreciate me and love me as much as I do them, period. I just have to find him. And this is as good a place as any to start.
Are you ready to start from scratch?
I have completely started over. Two months ago I was robbed, had everything I had ever owned stolen from me (dishes, food, clothes, everything). At the same time a relationship I had been trying to hold together finally collapsed because when I went to him crying that I had been robbed he yelled at me for dumping my emotional onto him. Alcoholic, self centered, and unable to be there for me, I cried all night and said "This isn't my life. I'm stronger than this." So I quit my job, I took what left of what I owned, and I moved to another state closer to my mother (whom I"m not all that close to but she is a kind lady and has been there for me as much as she can).
I can't say I'm completely over the emotional damage from my last relationship. It was very hard on me. But what I really need is someone who is completely different from that. Honest, caring, loving. I'm a tuff lady, I can put all this behind me. I would want to start slowly with someone new as I'm still a bit shell shocked. But that's the best way to start relationships anyhow. Hope that they'll be something more, but a very good friend at the start building towards a relationship. Maybe it'll happen fast, maybe slow. I don't know, it will depend on the person. But I am ready to be treated well by someone that I Can care about, regardless of my past. I promise I will be honest about my feelings and do what needs to be done to build a new relationship.
My typical day:
I'm looking for a partner, but not in the dull dreary sense. Like in the Lois and Superman sense. I want a best friend who just happends to be someone I'm really attracted to in and out and whom just happends to feel the same for me.
Date? Well my perfect date would really depend on the person more than what we did. I can have a wonderful time just driving around for hours and hours if the person I'm with is funny and a good conersationalist. but I LOVE adventures! Anything can be an adventure in the right mindset though. Well almost anything. Getting the mail, that's a hard one to make riviting. I'd love to go to a fair, I love seeing farm animals and rodeos (no I'm not a redneck) and riding on dizzy rides. I love watching movies a whole lot, though I generally want something with either a lot of humor or some sort of a plot or really really good special effects that make up for the lack of the previous requirements. I've never been on a date with an extroverted guy. As an extrovert, I'm usually the one talking, the one deciding where to go, what to eat. I would like to go on a date where the fellow asks my advice for what i'd like, but also does things he wants to do as well.
Explain a day in the life of me: Ok. Well at the moment, I just moved here to oregon so I'm still unpacking. I live in a little house on the same property as my mom (I've not lived near her since I was 17 it's very odd) so I sometimes go bang on her door and watch a movie, make some breakfast, talk about my day. I've been putting together school files because in the next few months here I want to go to school as a nurse, and you have to start that by doing a bunch of other things before you can even apply. So, I'm doing those other things. Getting transcripts, fighting with the federal student aid folks, etc. I often go out at night to try and meet new people as I"m new to the area. I've gone to kariokee in Eugene a couple times, gone to a few downtown places, wandered around the University of Oregon. I often spend my day time writing, reading, drawing, painting. Something creative. I also love video games, world of warcraft being my current favorite. At night time I usually get kinda lonely so I watch tv or read til I go to sleep. Oh, somewhere in there I feed my guinna pig. She'd be pissed if she knew I forgot to mention her. That's a day in the life of me.
My Wish List Includes:
Oh I'm scared about nursing school! It's very competative and though I think I'd be a good nurse there is the part in me that thinks I won't be able to do it. Too academically hard, or I'll get most of the way through it and it'll turn out to be something different than I thought.
I'd love to travel, but only if I'm with someone! I always say, I was born a twin and I've never grown out of the one on one personality thing. I want to travel with a person whom I really care about, share new experiences and adventures with them. I'd really love to go to Ireland someday, but honestly, there are lots of places i'd love to go.
I'd love to make enough money to have my own home someday, and I'd really love to have a family. I am really into family and have always felt a hole of loneliness since my family broke apart after my father died when I was younger. I have longed to make my own family, starting slowly, with a person who is my best friend and lover. I dont' want children til I've got my education figured out and not ever until I find a fellow who I'm comfortable and happy with, and he is likewise. For now, my idea family would just be one guy whom is happy to be with me, loves and appreciates me, and is my best friend. I want a buddy to go through life with.
If I could do anything in the world I would want to be in a broadway musical as the lead role. I love to sing and that would just be fabulous as a one time thing.
My Videos/Music/Other Content:
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