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LORDGREYSTOKE42 - Tarzan seeking Jane
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| Metairie, Louisiana Dating
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| Response Rate: 33%
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| Above average
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| Toned, I keep fit
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| Taurus
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| Caucasian
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| M
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| 37 years of age
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| 5'7 - 5'8
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| Single
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| Manager/Slum Lord
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| Here For
Dating
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Things that have bothered me:
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People in my past are still not really ready for a relationship. If you have a need for independence then inherently you are not ready for a relationship. Stephen Covey wrote in the Seven Habits of Highly Effective people that relationships have 3 stages Dependence-Independence-Interdependence. The most advanced is of course interdependence which occurs when two or more people come together and mesh their talents and strengths into a synergy that allows them to accomplish more than they could separately even when adding both of their work together. I believe that for a long time I have been at this stagelooking for a partner What has often happened is I have become involved with someone at the dependent stage. Dependent and interdependent can work together.because the interdependent is working to help the dependent person become more productive in the relationship and the dependent person inherently is willing to rely on others. The problem comes in when the dependent person (re)gains confidence, ability, etc and moves up to the independent stage. The independent person then wants to do and decide everything on their own and in interdependent person in the relationship may still be trying to interact and do things for the overall couple to which the now independent person rebels against often no matter how much in their favor. A great deal of friction is generated and the independent person who once relished the efforts of the interdependent person now despises those efforts and feels they are being controlled. This usually results in the disintegration of the relationship. S o with that in mind.for anything beyond datingI only want to get involved with someone that is emotionally available and ready for an INTERDEPENDENT relationship.
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Willingness to meet others from boM:
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I am a pioneer in internet dating etc. I Met my first person from the internet in .unfortunately it was one of those relationships like I describe above where there is a dependent person and an interdependent person.
I have however met some great people and friends from the internet and will continue to do so.
I personally find it very important to meet rather quickly if you start to develop any sort of a connection. There are a couple of reasons for thisOne that I have learned the hard way is that there are some people that are nothing but liars and never intend to meet you. I have had more than one woman use pictures of their daughters to lure me into conversation over extended periods.
The other reasonand my main one is Your subconscious mind does not distinguish between fantasy and reality. The problem with an online meeting is that there is so much there you don't know and your mind begins to fill in the gaps. Ultimately, people tend to idealize others they like and they begin to create all sorts of positive fantasies in their mind and this creates very powerful feelings towards the other person. Often you may build this other person up to a height which no real person could ever hope to compete with and when a meeting finally does happenit can lead to disappointment.
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Are you ready to start from scratch?
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I am totally available from an emotional stand point.from a time standthat is another matter.thoughif you are good or willing to help at home renovation.you just might be my manerr girl.e woman.
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Religion is sometimes important to me in relationships.
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I'm not Materialistic.
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I Don't Smoke.
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I Don't Drink.
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I Like Pets.
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I Like To Travel.
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I am an Active Person.
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I Spend Long Hours at My Job.
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Sometimes I am a spontaneous person.
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Friends Are Important to me.
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Sometimes I enjoy having a competitive partner.
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Sometimes I like clubs/bars.
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I'm not that Stressed.
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I sometimes try to stay in shape.
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I want to get Married.
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I Want to have Kids.
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Sometimes I can be stubborn.
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I Love going to the Movies.
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Sex Is Important to me.
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Sometimes it's important to have a clean house.
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