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MISSIONINDY - New Friends.Perhaps my best friend
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| Indianapolis, Indiana Dating
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| Response Rate: 42%
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| Average
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| Toned, I keep fit
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| Pisces
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| Caucasian
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| 49 years of age
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| 151 lbs - 160 lbs
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| 5'5 - 5'6
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| Single
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| Unemployed: 13 year job lost 09/07
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| Under 25k
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| Here For
Friends
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People say that I am:
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I can be described as outgoing, sometimes too careful. I have a lot of friends and that undoubtedly equals a LOT of different opinions.
Most would be comfortable with acknowledging much of the following:
I am a conflict unto myself: I would pledge often not to work to hard, but since I have always been the type of employee or manager who had keys to 'the office/facility', I often DID work too much. In the matter of women: even IF in the billions of years this planet has existed, even if I AM the only man on the planet who in 49 years has NEVER, EVER two-timed a woman, then so be it, I may be the only one. I have NEVER cheated on my woman. This last gal? She defines all women the same way & all men the same way. She loses, as such women SHOULD. I have NEVER cheated on my woman & I'm 49 going on 50. This is one issue about me that will never change. I cannot be tempted to cheat on my woman. I am not religious when I maintain this one great quality about me, so for me, this is based on the one good thing about me. I have simply NEVER cheated. Those who don't believe me don't have to look for me.
I don't necessarily keep a clean house, but I don't cheat. I drive too fast too often, but I don't cheat. Am I getting this point across?? Some women don't believe that such a man exists; If so, fine, that narrows the amount of time I would have to waste repeating myself. PLEASE: now that I attempted to date & live with someone who is truly 'Bi-Polar', if you have been diagnosed as being 'bi-polar', do not respond to my ad & good luck with your condition.
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Things that have bothered me:
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Women who are needy, greedy & don't want to contribute "50%" to a relationship. Women who can't answer basic straight questions.
My most recent relationship was the type who didn't trust me on my own, especially when I had the 16 hour/day job for most of the warmer months of the year. I warned her in advance of dating me, let alone moving in with me that many of my employees were female, that I could be trusted as their friends & vice-versa. What value is there in having a relationship with someone who did as my last mate did: she felt like she had to keep calling me(on my employer's cell phone which was NOT free, & she tried to maintain tabs on me as her partner just to, as she told her 'friends'(of which she had VERY few REAL friends), just to "know what he's doing all the time". If you can't believe in your man being forthright to you when he is on his own, when he is attempting to conduct business, then walk away. She was the first woman in 49 years of life that treated me like I couldn't be trusted & she will definitely be the last. I don't CHEAT, no matter how long I am unable to be found. Her biggest issue may be undiagnosed 'BiPolar disease'.
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I am looking for:
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I want a laid back woman. Women who are persistent for themselves, but not insistent about others exclusively following their lead when two don't share the same goals. People CAN have a great relationship, but they don't necessarily have to be traveling down precisely the same road to enjoy each other's company. I have dated career-oriented womenthat didn't bother me. I have dated women whose entire life was often restricted to the home, & while that is often not a choice for moms, I don't want someone who isn't trying to achieve some 'balance' in her life.
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My funniest life experience:
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In times mostly gone by when our multi-state 'camping crew' numbered in the 20-30 range, group laughter made entire weekends too 'endless' to isolate only one experience. Days at the lake water skiing, settling into a campfire, and camping in the great outdoors number amongst my favorite times.
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Cool Movies:
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I would have to start over on that issue. 'Excalibur' was an old favoriteso many others. 'Last of The Mohicans' is 'all me', all day. "Heat" may have been violent, but it was a good flick. So many, I don't want to typecast my 'favorite' list.
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My Favorite Groups are:
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I raised myself on Jethro Tull, Grateful Dead, Phish, Yes: so many/too numerous to name & not narrow enough to simply call me a 'Deadhead'.
I love a lot of Indy's 103.3 the 'X' music. I have to be tolerant of most rap, because its rarely me, but caring means sharing. I listen to your music too. I just don't have the respect for RAP that I have for more complicated forms of musical expression. RAP was born out of urban protest & a little bit of the BLUES. I was born in a generation that didn't have so much to protest. I wasn't born into money, but I have lived a reasonably comfortable life, compared to a lot of those who appreciate RAP. The lyrics of RAP to me are understandably important, but the drone, the commonality of a LOT of RAP just trashes my tender ears.
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I am looking for a personality like:
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Trial & error got me where I am today. Trusting my employer was an error. Ehrgot, there go I, burning shoeleather to get back in the game.
In others, those who believe in me & said so have made the best of me surface & such friends remain friends to this day. My best friends are people I have known for as long as 28-45 years.
Qualities: I know when she & I might be the types to achieve 'one mind'; hard to achieve, but when it has happened in the past,it always made life easier.
I listen whether I really want to take the time or not. And ALL males are troublesome when it comes to listening. Some are just better at doing so than others.
I simply try to listen to your soul.many people don't always verbalize what their soul is saying. I so TRY to listen.
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Are you willing to compromise in difficult times and situations?
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Life IS compromise. No proof needed.
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Willingness to meet others from boM:
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I have to start over. I jumped into a relationship without meeting this last gal thru the net, but instead thru friends; now they all feel bad I did so; some women just weren't meant to have a good man. It was a relationship that started for mutual convenience & I came to wish I had never entered into it, or carried it so far, let alone move in with her. Less than 1 1/2 years later, the damage done is unlistable on only 1 page. On the other hand, I have met other women who were simply great, many thru the net. My longest relationship was near 11-12 years. Now I just need to meet some good women, maintain some additional new friends & hope that one sees fit to spend some time with me.
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Are you ready to start from scratch?
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Now is as good a time as any. But there is no rush for things to happen a certain way. I would be happiest if I met someone who is at least OPEN to the possibility of long-term, but I don't want to define my next relationship in stark, unbending terms.
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My typical day:
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Too much work is where I am now. It has to change. It will change. UPDATE :
WELL, CRAP!!!!!! It changed alright, just went the wrong direction. Apparently these days unemployment comp. only lasts 6 months.
A perfect date?: Always easier to say that during warmer weather, but a walk over in Butler U'.s gardens near the carrillon is an old favorite. Inexpensive yet good food is out there to be had. I don't eat a large amount, so watching each other feed, going for a stroll, taking in the night air, &/or just talking about that which is trapped in the soul.is always good FOR the soul. My perfect date comes to understand I don't expect 2nd dates unless its HER idea. Meanwhile, I always want to walk away believing I made someone feel whole that I am a friend.& maybe more. I love my many friends & always welcome more & hope as well for my next 'mate' to leave the door open. I want a perfect date to result in someone feeling great to know theres NO pressure after a date to give definition to who 'we are': as friends, as a one-time dateor as a couple willing to consider more time spent together; no lines in the sand have to be drawn. I love women who enjoyed my company.
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My Wish List Includes:
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I have simple goals now. Travel is everything.and currently I cannot get out of the driveway very often, but for the opportunity to make a woman feel whole, I would walk if I had to. I am still earning enough to get fuel in the car, and my dates will certainly not involve deep expenditures for the time-being.
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Religion Is Not Important to me in relationships.
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I'm not Materialistic.
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I Don't Smoke.
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I Drink Sometimes.
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I Like Pets.
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I Like To Travel.
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I am an Active Person.
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I Spend Long Hours at My Job.
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I Am a Spontaneous Person.
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Friends Are Important to me.
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Sometimes I enjoy having a competitive partner.
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Sometimes I like clubs/bars.
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My life is somewhat stressfull.
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I Try to stay in Shape.
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I Don't Want to get Married.
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I Don't Want to have Kids.
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I Am Not a Stubborn Person.
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Sometimes I enjoy going to the movies.
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Sex Is Important to me.
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Sometimes it's important to have a clean house.
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