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BENJAMINKSPENCE - We find greatest joy, not in getting, but expressing what we are. Men do not really live for honors or for pay; their gladness is not in the taking and holding, but in the doing, the striving, the building, the living.
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Carson City Personals,
Nevada Personals
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| Response Rate: 0%
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| Average
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| My Physique, what do you think?
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| Virgo
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| Caucasian
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| M
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| 26 years of age
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| 221 lbs - 230 lbs
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| 5'11 - 6'
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| Single, with kids
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| Painting Contractor
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| 25k-34k
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| Here For
Dating
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 Online Now
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People say that I am:
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Laid back, fun, easy going. I would probably be described as a bookworm, a beer snob and a smartass. Friends say that I can get to the root of most issues without letting emotions cloud my thinking, and that I can be perceptive to the point of a fault. They would also say I love to laugh, I love subtlety, quick-wittedness and a well turned phrase. They would tell you I value love and friendship before all else, and that I abhorr violence. They tell you that I forgive quickly, love completely, and give my all to increase the happiness around me.
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Things that have bothered me:
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I can't class all the women I've dated into one lump category of "how they bothered me", but I can say, what irritated me the most seemed to be a lack of self-thought. Too often I find partners that seems to assume my opinion as thier own. I want a girl that has her own thoughts, that may or may not be the same as mine. And I want her to talk with me, communicate with me, exchange ideas, have a passion for learning new things and new ideas.
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I am looking for:
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Sigh this is where it counts, huh? I'm looking for a smart girl, who likes to read and converse. Who can appreciate a moment of silence while we just relax for a minute. I'm looking for someone who is motivated to be themselves, and not what they think the outside world expects of them. I'm looking for someone who loves herself, and the world around her. I want a woman who can appreciate the trees and the wind on the coastline. I also want a woman who doesn't need a man to carry her through her life, but she can let me carry her when I need to. I want a woman who can call me on my own bull , and encourage me to be a better person, too. I want a woman who supports me, but tells me when she thinks I'm making a bad call. I want a woman whom I can communicate with without immediately throwing up walls and barriers. She has to be able to cry, but through the tears see the silver lining in any cloud.
Heh, that's not too much, is it? :)
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My funniest life experience:
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Hahah seagulls! The most vile creatures on earth! This was when I was in Monterey like six years ago?! I had just gotten a chowder bowl from Seaside's, a glorious mixture of clams, cream, potatoes, sourdough bread, and what I'm pretty sure was a shot of heroin.(They're that good) I was finishing it up towards the end of the wharf, and a shadow blots out the sun. I turn, horrified, and this seagull that must have weighed at least a half ton, dive-bombed me and (I swear to God this is true) clutched my chowder bowl in his razor-sharp talons! I fought the good fight, but in the end the chowder-hawk won out. He beat me about the head and face with his enormous wings, and flew off into the f*cking sunset with my chowder bowl. I hope he choked on it. Heh. So that's the seagull story.
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Cool Movies:
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Hmm. I like Braveheart, Gladiator, 300 all sorts of old period peices. I really enjoyed 'everything is illuminated'. Pan's Labyrinth was pretty damn good, too. I love old Monty Python and Mel Brooks flicks, especially Blazing Saddles, and The Meaning of Life
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My Favorite Groups are:
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I love all music, well mostly. 'When it hits you, you feel no pain'. My favorite group still to this day is Pink Floyd, but thats just the tip of the iceberg. I especially love reggae and dub music. But classic rock is a rock of my music foundation. Clapton, Beatles, and the like. Love crazy 80s music. Favorite group as a kid would probably be Gun's n Roses, or Aerosmith. New music that I like includes System of a Down, Chromeo, and others of the same ilk.
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I am looking for a personality like:
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Other people's boldness helped relieved my timidity. Their honesty, love, and lack of judgement helps a lot. It allows me to open up and be me. Qualities I possess? I am an incredible listener. I take great joy in hearing other people's thoughts, ideas, ambitions, emotions, etc. I've found that just listening, and helping people I love communicate what they really feel allows a bit of a higher truth to be understood. I also have a knack for seeing beyond the moment, and this allows me to be generally quite calm, and calming to others around me.
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Are you willing to compromise in difficult times and situations?
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I am the master of compromise in difficult situations. I am always willing to see all sides, and not assume that mine is necassarily the correct view. I suppose the one that sticks out in my mind the most was right before the seperation of the ex-wife and I, we were looking for a house to buy that would be good for us and the kids and all that jazz. I found one for a killer price, that I was absolutely in love with.But she wasn't too sure about the neighborhood. The compromise ended up being we wouldn't buy it right away(even though that meant it might slip through our fingers) and rent it for six months to see if it would grow on her, and if not, we would find someplace else. Well, needless to say, we didn't make it that far, and I'm buying it on my own now.
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Willingness to meet others from boM:
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I am dying to meet someone on here. My job doesnt allow for much daily contact with available women, and I'm not too sure the drunk girl hanging on the edge of the bar is what im after :P
I have met people off the internet before, one is now a good friend of 13 years, and the another in particular went on to fall in love with a good friend of mine, so that worked out, too.
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Are you ready to start from scratch?
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I don't honestly know the answer to that one. I can't wait to meet new people, start having fun, and, who knows? Maybe I'll find _the one_. I know I need to really get all thoughts of my ex wife out of my head before anything serious can really start, but, she's the mother of my kids, and I still have to see her a few times a week. I'm not still pining for her, which leads me to think I could really enjoy myself with another woman, and allow her to enjoy herself as well.
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My typical day:
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My perfect date experience hmm. well i dunno- I love the ocean, the mountains, the trees. but I also love getting down with the get down with a few drinks and some good music.
Hmm. If it were up to me, we'd shoot around lake tahoe for the day, then hit a Ben Harper show something along those lines. It's very important to me to leave the options open during a date in case something of massive coolness presents itself.
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My Wish List Includes:
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Things I would really like to do. I want to spend a few weeks in Ireland, I love the culture, people, food(well maybe not so much the food, heh, try oxtail soup and you'll know what I mean), music, whiskey :P
I want to become more independant in my job, secure more contracts for myself. I want to expand my book collection to the point of absurdity; I want to become more involved in our democracy, I want to write well.
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Religion Is Not Important to me in relationships.
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I'm not Materialistic.
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I Smoke Sometimes.
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I Drink Sometimes.
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I Like Pets.
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I Like To Travel.
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I am an Active Person.
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Sometimes I spend long hours at work.
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Sometimes I am a spontaneous person.
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Friends Are Important to me.
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Sometimes I enjoy having a competitive partner.
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Sometimes I like clubs/bars.
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My life is somewhat stressfull.
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I Try to stay in Shape.
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I sometimes want to get married.
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Sometimes I feel that I would like to have kids.
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I Am Not a Stubborn Person.
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Sometimes I enjoy going to the movies.
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Sex Is Important to me.
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I like a Clean Place.
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